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Thursday, January 27, 2011

Do I Make You Proud?

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you make them feel. - Maya Angelou

I'm amazed at the baggage that we, as women, so often carry.  I work with women every day, and I hear story after story of abuse, abandonment, failures and tragedies, but most of all, I hear stories of feeling inadequate.  I really think that all of us, to a certain extent, don't feel "good enough" - but for some women, it becomes a huge struggle and a lifelong attitude.

My job at a women's gym exposes that mentality even more.  As I train women and encourage them to meet their weight loss and health goals, I realize just how much their self-image has suffered over the years.  They have heard for so long, "You can't do it.  You'll just fail again.  You're not good enough."  I'll never forget the woman who told me when she joined, "I know I'm not pretty - I've always been told I'm ugly.  Even my mother told me that."  When I told her, "I don't think that at all - I think you're very pretty," she started crying.  I'm not sure if she had ever heard that before.

I want to help women lose weight.  I want to help them be healthier and look better.  But most of all, I want them to be proud of themselves.  When they walk in our doors, I want them to know that the people there are proud of them.  I want them to feel good about themselves.  I want them to know that this is one place where they won't be criticized, judged or put down. 

That's really my goal in life...as a pastor's wife, as a mom, as a trainer, as a person, I want the people around me to know that someone cares, that someone is proud, that someone loves them.  Everyone needs that.  I hope that's the kind of legacy I'll leave behind, because if I do, then I'll feel like I've made a real difference in the world.

15 comments:

Mommy Lisa said...

Awesome - And I love the quote too.

Emily said...

Not all of us are going to be as famous as Maya Angelou...it's all about making a difference in our own little corner of the world and you definitely sound like you are doing it!

Sammy K said...

I think that every woman will remember the person who finally helps them to feel beautiful again. From the sounds of it, you rock. Definitely an inspiring post.

Visiting from Mama Kat's!

Super Amazing Savings said...

What a wonderful post! You are wonderful for helping these women feel better about themselves. Growing up I was often compared to my sisters and it always seemed like in the comparisons they were better than me. It took a while for me to realize no matter what anyone else said it was what I thought of myself that mattered. These women are lucky to have a person like you on their side.

Tonya said...

Bravo!! What a wonderful thing you are doing. It doesn't take much, does it? :)

Stopping by from Mama Kat's.

Jennifer said...

You are right--many women struggling with those feelings of inadequacies. Thank you for helping women see that they can be proud of themselves!

Stopping by from Mama Kat's!

Jennifer said...

It made me feel good just to read your post! That's fantastic and such a great way to look at the world.

mrs.trent said...

Visiting from Mama Kat's...

Great post! I wish everyone had your attitude!

jackie said...

Great post! I think it's awesome that you are helping these women feel good about themselves!

Dominique @Dominique's Desk said...

I love your positive attitude and work to make all women feel good about yourself.
Visiting from Mama Kat's

signingcharity said...

I love your post. We women do carry a lot of baggage, people say things and our hearts just don't forget. I stopped by from Simply Rebekah

Jessica said...

This is my first time visiting (coming over from TRDC) and I love the message that you are sending. I felt a little bit better about myself just reading your words. It is true that we are all our worst critic and in times of self doubt it is hard to remember that most women are feeling the exact same way. Thanks for all the work you are doing to empower women.

mamarobinj said...

Found you via TRDC. Lovely post. That's a great legacy to leave.

Scarlett said...

Visiting from RDC. What a beautiful post, you are truly inspirational. (I wish you were my trainer, I might walk away feeling empowered for once)

kp said...

You really are a superwoman!

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